Agreeing to Disagree: Politics, Religion and Difficult Subjects With Your Rebellious Teen Boy
By Craig Rogers
Whenever there is contention in a relationship, even the smallest discussion can become a major argument. And, from a psychological effect, simple conversations can be used as tools for teen males to direct their anger towards you as a result of other issues. Trying to discuss topics like politics and religion can be a breaking point in adult relationships as tough discussions are usually one’s people are very passionate about. Learn to win the war and not the battle. When your son seems to be arguing just to be argumentative, that’s the time to let it go and tell him you respect his opinion even if it’s different from yours. Conversely, if he thinks it is okay to drive his friends home after they’ve been drinking, you’re definitely going to have to win the war on that one.
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Being Right Isn’t Always Right
When you feel like you’re losing your son to things that could destroy his life, you may feel that even the smallest issue needs to be debated because every time you can show you are correct, it may convince him you know what you’re talking about. For the most part, a rebellious teen isn’t interested in right and wrong. He’s interested in getting what he wants and doing what feels good for the moment. So being the one with the answers isn’t going to help you change his mind. You have to learn when to let things go, but should seek professional help to know things have gone too far. Sometimes what your child needs is to know what is best, not what is correct. For questions about learning how to communicate with your son, call (435) 215-0500.