Avoiding Good Cop, Bad Cop Parenting With Your Teenage Girl
By Craig Rogers
Jackie’s mother was screaming when she walked in the house late, “Give me your phone! You are grounded from talking to any of your friends and you’re dropping out of cheerleading!” Before she could even protest her father was already trying to soften the blow explaining that it was a little harsh and they should probably listen to what Jackie had to say first. Arguments happen like this all of the time when parents play “Good Cop, Bad Cop” and disagree over disciplinary measures. There is nothing wrong with parents disagreeing, but frequent arguments over consequences can send inconsistent messages. Additionally, kids will also feel guilty that their behavior has caused the conflict between Mom and Dad. This kind of tactic strains the marital relationship as well as leaves your daughter favoring one parent over the other.
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Avoid These Disasters
There are simple solutions to dissolve the destruction “good cop, bad cop” can cause. Parents need to find common ground and move forward together. Discuss things in private if you don’t agree on how to handle a situation so that you will be unified when you discuss it with your daughter. Create rules beforehand as a family and agree together what the rules are and what the consequences will be if they are not followed. It’s okay to disagree on how to discipline—neither or you are right, but set up a signal if it’s clear you are not on the same page and you are discussing things with your daughter. Finally, know when to get help. When a situation becomes more than you can handle it is okay to call a professional at Trinity Teen Solutions at (855) 631-4424.