Cyber Sex and Internet Addictions in Teens
Over 130,000,000 Americans are on-line. About 46,000 more people are getting on-line each day. Americans are going on-line looking for information, entertainment and relationships. Use of the Internet (also called the Net) has grown faster than any technology in history including the telephone, television, computers, video games and CD players. The Net provides everyday users with primarily the Web, e-mail, instant messaging, live chat and the ability to purchase goods and services on-line. Many struggling teen that are addicted to the internet don’t know how to overcome the problems that they are faced with and many troubled teens need to be placed in the correct environment in order to restore themselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Zion Educational Services can educate parents of struggling teens, on how to place troubled boys and girls in perfect facilities in order to receive the help they need to overcome their struggle. For immediate assistance contact ZES at 866-439-8112, to speak with a child placing specialist to educate you on school program placement for struggling teens in the perfect facility that fits their needs.
People are naturally skeptical when they hear someone say there are problems when using the Internet. Here are several important research facts.
Women are now on-line more than men. 50% of the people on-line lie about their age, weight, job, marital status and gender. 20% of the people going on-line will experience clear negative impacts to their life. Use of the Internet is a contributing factor in nearly 50% of all family, relationship and family problems. 11% of the people going on-line are becoming compulsive or addicted. How could anything that feels so safe and innocent looking be unhealthy for so many people? Feeling good and not realizing the problem is precisely the problem. People can go anywhere, see almost anything, find out virtually anything, do anything and be anybody they want. They act out in ways that are exciting and they can do without leaving their chair or being with a real person. Accountability, supervision and social consequences are missing in a virtual society.
The potential problems for new Internet use are significant and may be growing. Nearly 20% struggling teens going on-line will encounter one or more of the following problems.
Personal neglect Compulsive checking and "clicking" Isolation and avoidance from people Lost productivity Depression Marital problems Sexual addiction Academic failure. Are You Compulsive or Addicted To the Net?
Using the Net is not a problem for Internet users who are on-line less than two hours a week. Heavy users are at risk when they are plugged more than 18 hours a week. There is no official diagnosis for an addiction to the Internet. The proposed disorder is called Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD). There is a rather exact criterion proposed but it essentially easy to spot a problem. A compulsive and potentially addicted user is on-line more than 10 hours a day in non-work related activity.
Troubled boys and girls go on-line and they are making friends. For many struggling teens the Internet is like a private night club or the place where you can find the friends you’ve always wanted. You don’t have to go out and find real people and have an honest relationship. You can stay in your own chair and explore endless activities. You can walk away and come right back. There is always something happening. People will even miss you and ask you to come back. If you embarrass yourself, or people get mad, then you can just change your name, age and marital status and just start over.
Men, women and families are going into counseling for relationship problems that are partly or entirely caused compulsive internet use or virtual addictions. Women are filling for divorce claiming that their husbands are having sex on-line or looking at "pornography" for hours every day. Kids stay up all night. Parents stop relating and spend less time raising their children.
Cyber Brain Washing
Knowing what can happen to you, your friends or even your children won’t necessarily help. Heavy users will tell you that the Net will change you. If you spend enough time on-line, the rest of the world starts to look unreal or strange. You may not even notice the change. There is no sure way to know if you will get hooked or how long it can take. Here’s how it happens.
How do struggling teens get caught up in the Net? For one thing, human beings are curious. We like to see more and do more. Many of us like to travel. When we can’t travel, we like to read books and go to movies. Human beings like to feel better and they don’t like to feel bad. We like to do things that feel good and avoid things that feel worse. We especially like doing pleasurable things more and more. Being on the Internet is not necessarily about having a good time. Being on-line might make you feel better but it might just change how you feel. It can be an escape from reality that isn’t necessarily better for you. For some people, a painful or disgusting fantasy is preferable to a less painful or disgusting reality.
Psychologists explain the seduction and addictive nature of the Net primarily in terms of a behavior modification process called a variable reinforcement schedule. That means you don’t know how much of a reward you will get and when for your behavior. A variable reinforcement schedule is the most addictive reward system. Slot machines are designed and operate in the same principle.Cyber Sex
People involved in cyber sex universally minimize the importance and impact of their behavior. They say "It’s was just on-line" or "It’s not real sex." Patients are telling counselors and therapists that having cyber sex with an adult is not an affair (assuming it really was an adult and not a teenage boy). Marriage and family counselors are no longer asking, "Did you have an affair?" Or, "Did you have sex with someone?" We are now asking "Have you have had sex with someone that you have not had sex with in person?" The bad news is that some troubled teenagers are becoming sexual addicts by the age of 16. The good news is that they are not necessarily having intercourse yet.
Many troubled teens go on-line to find information. But unfortunately the most perverse human and even human-animal sexual interactions are available on-line. The biggest "rushes" for the severe addicts come from violent sexual cruelties that are available on-line. People tell themselves that can just click and look for a second, but they don’t realize that the trauma and stimulating effects are addictive. The most addictive content is the most shocking that changes your mood quickly. A quick look at graphic violence is a "rush" even if you find it offensive. Normal people can become addicted to disgusting content not because they approve but because it changes and excites their mood. People become excited and disgusted at the same time.
As troubled teens become more comfortable, they begin to disappear and literally live on-line. Some will eventually move from back from the Internet to the real world. Eventually some will start seeking out people for real sex instead of cyber sex.
The Real World Vs Cyber World
Do you want your child spending 2 to 4 hours a day on the Internet playing games, looking at pictures, talking with strange people in chat rooms or visiting a "private bedroom" while they pretend to be an adult?The research on troubled teens is becoming very interesting. It turns out that struggling teenagers are in greater risk that adults. Shy boys and girls in large school are especially vulnerable to having problems. Small schools have a lower incidence of teenage Internet addiction. Shy kids in large schools are withdrawing into their rooms. Some are becoming withdrawn, disturbed, and impatient. A few are becoming a violence risk. It should be no surprise that some teenagers prefer the cyber world and become infuriated and lonely in the real world.
The Internet has been designed to be visible and accessible. At present, there is no way to effectively prevent access to inappropriate content nor is there a reliable way to restrict activity. What methods exist can be circumvented by clever children and adults. Fortunately there are a number of ways to control Internet use.
Psychological and even physically safety are real concerns since struggling teens are connecting to all the information on the planet. Very few parents would not let their child go anywhere anytime and speak to anyone. Likewise, parents should not allow their troubled teens to go on-line unless they know where they are going and who they will be with. Leaving a child alone in their room with access to the world is a risky decision.
You can’t allow yourself to become Internet ignorant if you care about your relationships or family. You need to know what your employees at work and family members are doing. What adults do in their free time is their business. What you employees and children do is another matter. Children under the age of 16 are not ready to drive a car and they are not capable of resisting or understanding the dangers of being on the Internet. Monitoring and supervision is essential.
Finally, prevention is more likely to be assured if you maintain balance in your life. People go on-line looking for something missing in their life or they become involved in content and relationships on-line that begin to interfere with important routines, responsibilities and relationships. Many parents of struggling teens aren’t aware the correct way to restore their troubled boys and girls and need a professional to educate them. For parents of struggling boys and girls that need immediate assistance dealing with troubled teens, Zion Educational Services specializes in educating parents about different youth programs for troubled teens such as different types of private boarding schools for troubled teens, boot camps for troubled teens, schools for troubled teens, therapy programs for troubled teens and many other youth facilities for struggling boys and girls. ZES provides help for parents of troubled teens with the information to place your troubled boys and girls in the perfect treatment center that can meet their needs. If you have any questions or concerns contact ZES, (Zion Educational Services) immediately to talk to a child education specialist at 866-439-8112.