It Was All A Bad Dream: Helping Struggling Girls Move Past Teen Issues
My teenage daughter, is a nightmare! Loud music, shouting, swearing, failing grades, acts entitled, breaking curfew, smoking and drinking; these are just some teen behaviors that are every parent's bad dream. Does this sound familiar?
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Rights and Privileges
There are always consequences for everything we do. Your daughter is looking for boundaries, even though it doesn't appear that way. In today’s world, many girls believe they have rights to certain things when in actuality they have privileges. Their rights are a roof over their heads, food on the table, and parents to love them. Everything else is a privilege and can easily be taken away. It’s because you love them that you go to great lengths to provide for them.
Communication, Consistency and Compromise
There are a couple of tools you can use to combat your child’s bad behavior: The first, is communication. Make a behavior contract with signatures and everything. Include specific rules that must be followed. And have specific natural consequences for breaking those rules. Then make sure you communicate both to your child before they have become an issue. Now, this would mean that you would have to spend time thinking of all the things they could possibly do wrong and how you’ll handle it if and when it occurs, but is ensures that they know what is expected of them and what will happen if they break the rules.
The next tool would be consistency. Always follow through with your consequences, no matter what. Even if you’re too tired and don’t want to deal with it. Your child has to know that certain behaviors bring about certain repercussions. The last tool is compromise. Sometimes you just need to pick your battles. Ask yourself if it's really that important of an issue. Maybe a messy room is not as important as other problems and by compromising on certain things, kids can see that you are reasonable, which makes it easier for them to accept the other rules and move past their issues.